Anonymous Q&A
March 25, 2012 | Posted in Dating/Sex Friends/Family
Ok so my best friend (girl) and I (boy) have known each other since 2nd grade and we are now in 6th grade. I kind of like her, I have developed strong feeling for her in the time we've known each other because she is smart, fun, funny, cute, beautiful, flirty, and cool. We flirt litely like hold hands, occasional cheek kiss, share loads of stuff, hug, etc.. I kind of hint I like her when we (litely) flirt. Some people have even said "I kno u like her it's so obvious! U 2 would make a cute couple" from like 17 people!!! And one of my other best friends has said "Dude she is so freakin' into u, man" and "she talks about u all the time" but I'm not how true that info is. Anyways I wanna start a relationship with her (like everyone in my grade wants me to lol) or at least kiss her on the lips. Any ideas?
Hey man, thanks for the question. Let me just start by saying, it sounds like you are “The Man”. Being able to catch the attention of a smart, fun, beautiful and cool young lady is both exciting and flattering. Based on the way you describe your interactions, I would think it’s safe to say that she is into you as well. That’s cool. I love the first word that you used when describing this young lady, “smart”. As a man who is approaching 16 years of marriage, I know that’s a trait that you want in the person that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. The rest of your life! Now that’s something to think about. Let me ask, can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this girl? Haha. I would imagine you probably haven’t thought about it like that – at least I hope not. That’s because you have so much more life to live before you start thinking about the rest of your life. So, I would encourage you to slow it down a little and start thinking about making a close friend that you can have for the rest of your life. That’s the first thing! Build a friendship. Especially at your age – it’s important to be able to interact with girls and keep the relationship in the right perspective. I would warn you against kissing, especially on the lips, when you are so young because – kissing always leads to other things. Trust me, my wife and I have 5 kids, I know! Each of them started with a kiss. So, slow it down, big shooter. Focus on growing your friendship and discovering how smart she really is. Allow her the opportunity to find out how sharp you are too. Do this before you start locking lips. Kissing girls is fun – I ain’t gonna lie to you. But, it has to be done at the right time. And I believe that right time is when you can start thinking about spending the rest of your life with a girl and you have a realistic plan about how you can financially and physically make that happen. So, I would advise you hold off on doing what all your other friends are saying and “going for it”. I challenge you to be different and even a little weird and show that you can be “Just Friends” with a girl and keep your relationship and interactions pure and wholesome.
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